I Thought Healing Would Make Me Lovable

“I thought if I fixed everything, then maybe someone would finally choose me.”

When Taylor said that, the room didn’t explode. It went still.

Because in that one sentence… a thousand people found themselves.

It wasn’t the addiction. It wasn’t the trauma. It wasn’t the story.

It was the belief underneath it:

That we have to be healed to be chosen. That love is earned only after we’re “better.” That if we just fix the parts we’ve been told are broken… maybe someone will finally stay.

What We Heard From You

After Taylor’s episode dropped, this is what came in:

“That line wrecked me. Because I’ve lived my entire life believing the same thing.”“ I didn’t even realize that’s what I was doing—until she said it.” “I’ve spent thousands on therapy… not to heal… but to be ‘good enough’ for someone.”

This wasn’t just Taylor’s voice. It was an echo of a thousand silent truths people didn’t know they were allowed to say out loud.

What This Means for You

If you’ve ever:

• Chased growth like it was a price tag on love

• Believed being lovable and being “better” were the same thing

• Been terrified that your mess disqualified you from being chosen—

Then this episode wasn’t just a podcast.

It was a mirror.

And in that reflection, something stirred.

So We Ask You:

What part of yourself have you been trying to fix… just so someone else would stay?

Because healing doesn’t make you lovable.

It just helps you remember that you already are.