What If the Reason You Don’t Trust Anyone… Is Because You’ve Never Met Yourself?

“I think I felt invisible a lot as a kid… I didn’t realize how much that stuck with me until I became a father.”

Slade didn’t show up to this conversation with a dramatic story. He showed up with presence. With patterns. With proof that some of the deepest wounds are the ones we never even knew were there.

This episode wasn’t a confession—it was a mirror. And it showed us what happens when two brothers sit down to ask each other not who are you now—but why did you become him?

Why We Asked That Question

The real moment came when we asked: “Why do you think you have a hard time trusting people?”

And what surfaced wasn’t rage or blame or trauma. It was clarity.

Slade said, “I felt invisible.” And suddenly, all the dots connected—why his nervous system overreacts… why control feels like safety… why his guard is always halfway up, even with people he loves.

And that was the shift. Not a breakdown—just a quiet realization that the wall was never protecting him. It was isolating him.

What That Moment Taught Us

This episode wasn’t a dramatic turning point. It was a slow, deliberate unpacking of what survival mode really looks like.

It looks like nervous system overdrive. It looks like not breathing. It looks like pushing people away to protect something no one ever tried to hurt.

But then Slade said something that hit hard:

“There’s a lot of power in acceptance. In relinquishing control over the things you never had control over anyway.”

That’s the voice of someone starting to level up. Not because they were forced to…But because they’re finally ready.

What This Means for You, the Listener

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why your shoulders are always tight

• Why you panic when someone doesn’t text back

• Why you feel like people “don’t really see you”

Ask yourself:

“What part of me was never met as a child—and how is that part still driving my adult life?”

Slade didn’t show up to perform. He showed up to reflect. And if you listened closely, you heard your own thoughts hidden in his voice. https://www.throughtherough.net/podcast/episode/2040c52f/fate-vs-free-will-do-we-control-our-own-lives